Today around the “table” we are going to be spicing it up, if you know what I mean. You are probably thinking isn’t this a “mom” blog? Yes, I can assure you that it is. So if a little spicy-ness isn’t what you need in your life then stop here. But hey, who are we kidding ladies? We all need some more hot, SMOKIN….romance. So I encourage you to read on.
I have a 10 month old and another on the way, due to arrive early September. Needless to say I am TIRED. Not just chasing after a 10 month old tired but on top of that I’m growing a human. You might be thinking one of two things:
1. I am crazy
2. I am superwoman
I am happy to tell you, yes and thank you to both of the above!
I am sitting in the airport as I write this, waiting for my flight home. My husband and I are just returning from vacation… are you ready for this? … with NO Kids. We took long walks, every night was a date night and we made out like teenagers but most importantly we were able to spend uninterrupted quality time together. Okay, maybe the making out like teenagers trumps the quality time. Either way, it was much needed and made me realize how many of us are in the same boat.
Most of our days, as moms, look the same and we can settle into a monotonous routine even within our marriages. By the end of the day we are tired, trying to clean up after dinner, while putting the kids to bed and trying to exchange how the day went with our spouses. All at the same time. So when the time comes to climb into bed and lay our beautiful heads on that well deserved pillow the last thing most of us have on our mind is romance. Am I the only one here or can we all relate? If I am alone, please tell me your secrets!
While we were one vacation I started to think how it is so crucial to make time for some more romance. I really thought about how more intimacy and romance with my husband makes me a better wife and mom! Here are some things in my own life that I noticed improvement with more romance:
- Deeper connection with my husband
- Less stress (come one ladies, who doesn’t need less stress)
- More energy
- Other unspoken benefits (see where I am going?)
So it goes like something like this, the more you connect with your spouse on an intimate level the less stress you will have, the less stress you have the more energy you have, the more energy you have the better mother and wife you can be. And well, all the “other” benefits don’t need an explanation.
I understand that it is easier said than done. I also understand that some of our spouses lack in the category of romance. I am here to tell you ladies that I freely give you permission (that you don’t need) to romance your husband this week, this month and all year. It’s really up to you. Go and find your best lingerie or something that makes you feel amazing (that little tight black dress, maybe)! Some of us might need to dig REALLY deep in that special drawer, dust it off, put it on and wear it proud! So ladies, lets spice it up a little or for some a lot. I promise you will not regret it.
From one mother to another,
*DISCLAIMER* Where romance is written in some of the above, please note that we are talking about sex.